July 3, 2013 by mattfradd
So I went ahead and did it. I crossed over. I deleted my personal Facebook account (I still have my public figure page) which had maxed out at 5000 friends.
Why did I do it? Two reasons: 1) I was addicted. 2) The need to separate my public and private life.
That shiny blue square with the white “F.” I sought it while I was alone; with company; in the bathroom (you do it to); I’d seek it out when the person in front of me got boring (no pressure, right?), or when they’d get up to go to the bathroom; I’d even begun seeking it out whilst singing my kids to sleep—not cool.
There have been many days of late where I’ve asked myself the question, “if you tallied up the time you spent looking at your wife and children today, and compared that with the amount of time you spent looking on Facebook, who’d win? Who (or what) was it that won your attention, your time.”
Public Vs. Private Life
I no longer want thousands of people I don’t know seeing pictures of my family, or reading my more personal updates.
So that’s one reason, the other reason is that I seem to have a gift for offending people. Text, after all, is tone deaf. Perhaps people misunderstood some of the things I wrote, or perhaps I just posted without thinking. At any rate. I’ll start putting thought into to my public messages and reserve my off-the-cuff quips to my private ones.
One more thing on that note; It’s a weird thing when one of your 5000 “friends” takes offense at something you’ve posted and begins correcting you publicly (in a thread). I get that that’s partly due to the nature of social media—a free-for-all back and forth—but I still find it weird. In the real world you wouldn’t, under ordinary circumstances, correct someone you barely knew in front of a bunch of strangers, or at least you shouldn’t! Surely the thing to do would be to pull him a side and share your concerns privately.
If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone. If he listens to you, you have gained your brother. But if he does not listen, take one or two others along with you, that every word may be confirmed by the evidence of two or three witnesses (Matt. 18:15-16).
In cyber space that would seem to me to be a private message. But I’m venting.
My Public Page
I have a public figure page now, so perhaps a better title for my post would have been “Facebook, we need to cool things down a bit okay? Back off!”
you can find my public page here: https://www.facebook.com/matthew.fradd . . . If you’d like to continue following my work, that’d be the place to go. To the small army of you who pray for me while I’m out of the road speaking to teens and young adults. Thank you, thank you, thank you. I’ll continue posting my prayer requests there.
So what about you? Is social media becoming a problem for you? What steps have you taken/should you take to avoid becoming an addicted bore?