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The Porn Effect?

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September 30, 2013 by mattfradd


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Several years back I founded a site called The Porn Effect. It was a website dedicated to exposing the reality behind the fantasy of porn and offering education and advice to men, women, and married couples from a Catholic perspective.

I’m sorry to say that due to my responsibilities at Catholic Answers I haven’t done a good job maintaining it, and, consequently, the number of people viewing the site has declined.

Through much prayer and discernment I feel called again to refocus my efforts on The Porn Effect and instead of renovating the site I’ve decided to take it down and rebuild it from scratch, and I’ve got some BIG plans!

Here’s where you come in: 

What would you like to see on this site?

What would you find helpful?

I’m very much looking forward to your input.

Totus Tuus Maria.

67 thoughts on “The Porn Effect?

  1. JT says:

    Although not religious films, I know of two that are quite useful in making some valid points from an academic but secular perspective. I use them with my university students in a secular university. One is called A Drug Called Pornography: Understanding the Harmful Effects of Pornography” (written and directed by Jonathan Schneider and narrated by Martin Kove, 2000). The other is called “Adult Entertainment: A Psychosocial Study of and American Obsession,” 2007. The DVD jacket says that it can be obtained from http://www.films.com or at 1-800-257-5126 or 609-671-1000. In this second film, a study was conducted at one of the Cal-State U’s in Southern California. It does feature one Catholic couple whose marriage deteriorated terribly within 21 days of the husband’s porn use, to which the couple both consented for a psychological study. Pretty telling.

  2. S. Mar says:

    Thanks so much Matt for continuing to make steps towards addressing the issue of pornography! Not that long ago I was in a long term relationship with a wonderful man who had a porn addiction. We are no longer dating, but when we were I desperately wanted support and guidance in this situation–I wanted someone going through a similar situation to talk to, I wanted to know how I could work alongside my boyfriend to help him fight his addiction, I wanted to know if it was okay to continue dating him, I wanted to know how his addiction would affect me in the future. In my searching, I found zero resources for young women like me who aren’t married, but are considering marrying a man who has an active addiction. Us girlfriends (and boyfriends! I am so sure that there are many men dating women with porn addictions as well) are forgotten about and NEED to know that each other are out there. If you could recognize and facilitate that on your new site, I think it would not only be ground-breaking, but also very greatly appreciated. Thanks so much for giving us the opportunity to share with you our suggestions! 🙂

  3. Vanessa Machado says:

    Hi Matt,

    thank you for your ministry, In my opinion, the site should be user-friendly, not moralist or generalist, treating everyone the same way, but open. Could you mention women problems with porn, but as a user, not because of men’s use? Because though is not as common, it exists.
    It should be an appealing site, modern. I dont remember the previous…
    About statistics use, it works for some people, but some other hate it! So, be careful about its use.
    It should be provided in Spanish, for instance, I mean other language besides English.

    Thank you!
    VM

  4. Chris Byrum says:

    Once again Matt, I just wanted to continue to encourage you in your dedication to educate people about the destructiveness of pornography. It is wonderful to see your renewed commitment to the Porn Effect website, the materials you help produce, the talks you give, and your partnerships with those like Donny Pauling. I am one of those who struggled with pornography and received freedom and renewal through Christ. It was an important awakening for me to realize that pornography was not just destroying my life, manhood, and relationships, but I was also destroying the lives of many others I would never meet; people I was victimizing through my consumption.

    If I have one suggestion, one that was important to me, it would be to highlight that fighting a porn addiction is not just about trying to resist an evil desire, or remove access to porn, but to be filled with the things of God. G.K. Chesterton said in Heretics that:

    “A young man may keep himself from vice by continually thinking of disease. He may keep himself from it also by continually thinking of the Virgin Mary. There may be question about which method is the more reasonable, or even about which is the more efficient. But surely there can be no question about which is the more wholesome.”

    My own problems with pornography ceased to be a fight to the death struggle once I began consistently orienting my heart toward the majesty of God. Spending time in prayer (especially intercessory prayer which focuses the heart on others), reading scripture, having fellowship with brothers and sisters, worship with others in the presence of Christ, and meditating on the mysteries of God all were extremely beneficial to me. Not only was there less room in my life, mind, and heart for lust, but there was less room for other darkness and sin as well. Walking in the cool of the shade in the mercies and graces that God has given us in this life is the best protection that I have found thus far. I try to focus on working within the grace of the Lord to keep the temple within me strong, so that I can have sanctuary in the Spirit within its walls.

    Anyway, may God richly bless your work on this site, at Catholic Answers, and in this ministry to combat pornography. May God’s peace and joy also be on your family.

    Chris.

  5. dethom says:

    Expecting stories of people who have overcame this addiction, experiences of those who found out its harmful effects….

  6. Becca says:

    What about an area for priests…either for info. when parishioners confess and are looking for more help or for themselves(not sure if there is something already there for them through the diocese or something)?

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